All the sexy lingerie in the world will do nothing for your sex life if you are not able to reach orgasm. Believe it or not there are thousands of women out there who have trouble finding that magic spot with a partner, but when left to their own devices with some sex devices, are brought to new heights of sexual pleasure. If you’ve never had the pleasure of seeking pleasure from a sex toy, here are some tips to help get you started:
First Figure Out if You Need to Get Out of Your Head
The key to mind-blowing orgasms is in your mind. If you are not able to relax during sex or masturbation then it will make no difference if the G-spot is stimulated or not, the brain will shut down your response to it. For some women it is the stress of not reaching orgasm that is causing the failure to do so. Masturbate to learn what turns you on, direct your partner there, and then relax as you wait for the fireworks to start.
Getting Your Good Vibrations
Research shows that many women are reaching their first orgasms with the help of a vibrator. This is because without the pressure of a partner to please, they are able to explore their own bodies at their own pace. Like this, a woman is able to get to know her own body and how to turn it on. The vibrator provides a sensation that is not found in the bedroom, giving the woman using it liberty at reaching orgasm.
Choosing the right vibrator may take a few attempts, as they do come in all shapes, sizes and with different perks. Some women are content with a basic smooth vibrator, while others are stimulated by ridges and bumps found on more adventurous varieties. Experts also recommend finger exploration, using a lubricant for added stimulation. This gets you used to the way your own body feels, and helps you to get comfortable with exploring it.
The finger approach works because it feels most natural, much like the way a man is able to climax with the help of a Fleshlight. By simulating how a partners body would feel, the Fleshlight is able to provide men with the pleasure of having sex without having a sexual partner. Fingers, and then realistic vibrators can help women who have difficulty reaching an orgasm learn to embrace the feel of skin and against skin.
The next time you are flipping through the pages of a lingerie catalogue, take the time to check out the sex toy section too. Self stimulation and masturbation may be all that you need to make your sexy lingerie take you to that orgasm you have been dying to have.